Over the last 16 years of building and running All Nation Restoration in Austin, Texas focused on water, fire, and mold remediation across Central Texas I’ve learned a lot about business. But I’ve also learned a lot about myself. Time has answered questions I used to lose sleep over.
When I was a kid, I didn’t dream of being a fireman or a CEO. If you asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would’ve said a husband and a father. That was it. I wanted a family, and more than anything, I wanted a chance to do it better than it had been done for me.
I didn’t have a master plan for a career. I started working young hands-on, blue-collar jobs and eventually launched my own company at 18. And all the while, even in the middle of starting a business, I was watching. Waiting. Hoping to find her, the one.
As I hit adulthood and I began truly settling into what type of life I wanted, finding the right person was difficult. Why hadn’t I found her yet? Was I too picky? Were my expectations too high? What was wrong with me?
I watched people around me get married, start families, settle down and I felt like my life was stuck in a pressure cooker. My days were full of stress, sacrifice, and long hours. I was trying to build something bigger than myself, and the woman I was hoping to find remained elusive.
Here’s what I’ve learned, something I didn’t understand until later: men like me, men who are highly motivated, relentless, who take insane risks and can get dragged behind the horse but still climb back in the saddle—we require a different type of partner.
We can’t thrive with someone who wants average, who’s threatened by our ambition, or who needs things to always be predictable and stable. If you’re aiming to be in the top one percent in business, in mindset, in performance you can’t expect to partner with someone who doesn’t have the resilience to keep up.
She won’t show up by accident. You won’t stumble across her at a bar and magically transform her into someone who supports your vision. The wrong woman will hold you back. She’ll question your every decision. She’ll resent the hours, the sacrifices, and the obsession. She’ll demand control of a destiny she doesn’t understand.
But the right one? She won’t need convincing. She’ll get it because she’s wired the same way.
If you are wired for purpose, for performance, for excellence don’t be surprised when relationships don’t come easy. You’re not looking for average. You’re looking for the one percent of women who are capable of standing beside the one percent of men.
It’s not about perfection it’s about capacity. Emotional strength. Patience. Grit. Self-respect. The ability to evolve without falling apart.
I once heard that the most important financial decision you’ll ever make is who you marry. I believe that. Your partner will influence your mindset, your habits, your energy and ultimately, your trajectory.
Yes, she’ll grow. You will too. You’ll both make mistakes. But if she can’t hang from day one if she doesn’t have it in her from the beginning she’s not the one.
Business will teach you more about yourself than any book, podcast, or seminar. It will also reveal the truth about what you need not just what you want.
If you’re building, stay focused. If love hasn’t come yet, stay patient. If the doors are closing around you, stay strong. Because if you’re aiming to be in the one percent, you’re also waiting for someone just as rare.
Stay strong. Stay focused. Stay in business.
